Break-ups are often nasty and it can take a long time to get someone you were dating off your mind.
If you had dated each other for a while and created memories together, that can make it even harder to just forget about them immediately!
The good news is it’s possible to move on from a toxic relationship and completely get the person out of your mind.
How? By using the law of attraction.
The law of attraction simply means you attract what you focus on. If you focus on the joy you will attract joy and you will have a manifestation of joy in your life.
If you want to know how to get someone out of your head after a break-up, here’s a few things to try.
But first, let’s quickly look at why it’s so important to move on.
The health effects of negative energy
Negative energy is not only bad for your state of mind – it can actually lead to many physical health effects on your body.
How? Well, we all know that negative draws from your mind and makes you sad, gloomy, sorrowful and moody. Right?
These characteristics can cause stress, which has physiological effects on the body’s stress response. This affects the heart, lungs, stomach… pretty much every important organ!
Negativity can also lead to depression. Depression is a disease that is often complicated to treat, and can last for many years.
Also, when you’re feeling at the mercy of negative energy, you tend to eat more food as you try to fill in the gap of sadness.
Comfort eating, while fun at the time, can put your body on very unhealthy path. Some people may experience weight gain which leads to other body complications and illnesses that come with excess weight such as hypertension.
How to get rid of toxic thoughts and negativity
The best way to get rid of toxic thoughts and negativity is by using of the law of attraction. According to the law of attraction, we become what we attract.
So to do away with toxic thoughts you should replace them with positive and optimistic thoughts. The more you practice this, the more you will start experiencing positive occurrences and events in your life.
Joy, love, peace, hope, optimism are all positive emotions that you can actively manifest in your life. When you’re feeling positive emotions, all the toxic thoughts about your break up fade into the background. They no longer have control over you. You will be a changed person full of energy and a great outlook on life.
Let’s take a look at how you can use the law of attraction to change your mindset and get someone out of your head.
Do not assume you know what they are thinking
After a break-up, bad feelings and emptiness may be happening for both parties. While your partner may have caused the break-up, they might be going through a rough patch with their thoughts and emotions too. The truth is that you may not know what their state is and you could just be assuming that they are not experiencing the same feeling as you are.
The best approach is to avoid making this assumption because it will hurt you more. You cannot know what is going on with someone else, so don’t drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what he or she is thinking.
You cannot know. So let it go.
Let go of anger and send them loving kindness
Anger is a reflection of inner bitterness and emptiness and it can affect your mood so much that you are unable to move on.
The best way to remove anger is to replace it with loving kindness. This is the law of attraction in play. When you show love, you manifest love into your life.
Because ‘like attracts like‘ – the energy we put out into the universe comes back to us.
The truth is that you can easily find a reason to be angry, but always remember that anger allows the other person to control your emotions.
Nobody can make you angry unless you give yourself permission to feel this way. Try to choose another emotion instead. It’s not easy at first, but the more you practice choosing how you wish to feel, the more you are able to do so.
Move away from the blame game
After a break-up, you may feel as if you were to blame for a mistake you made. Or vice versa – you might be blaming your ex for ruining things with something they did.
Maybe you spend your days feeling guilty and wishing you did tihngs differently.
This anguish serves no purpose – the break up has already happened. You you cannot go back in time to change anything.
The best you can do here if you made the mistake is learn your lesson and move on with your life.
And if they made the mistake that broke you up, there’s a lesson to be learned there too!
Either way, don’t punish yourself by giving your energy to something that cannot be changed. Instead, focus on changing how to act in the future.
Be patient with the process
Time is a healer and therefore be patient. The process of getting rid of a former partner in a relationship may take some time.
Just like people go through grief when they lose a loved one, a relationship breakup can feel like that too.
Just remember you WILL get through this. As bad as it feels right now, there will be a time in the future when the pain fades.
Trust the process and feel what you need to feel, but don’t wallow indefinitely.
Remember our thoughts are not facts
After a nasty break up, you may be tempted to think that what you think about the breakup is the absolute truth.
Emotions can sometimes create a mountain out of nothing and see a minor situation as a great one. You might think that it is a matter of life and death and find it hard to move on but the reality is that breakups are normal occurrences and you can indeed move on and have life afterward.
Think of how can you grow from this
Every experience we have in life is an opportunity to learn something new and grow.
So take your break up as the learning experience it is. Carefully analyse the relationship and see what you can learn from it and make amends in the future.
The universe has a funny way of bringing people together. Do you remember how earlier I said that ‘like attracts like’? Well, you’ve attracted this person into your life for a reason, and the sooner you learn it, the less likely you will make the same mistakes again.
Look at the patterns of the last few relationships you had. What lesson is the universe trying to teach you? And are you listening? Or are you repeating the same destructive cycle?
Set your intention of how you will deal with this in the future
The law of attraction works best when you set your intentions for its energy. If you decide this break up will make you wiser and stronger, and look for reasons why this is true, then it will be.
The experience will shape your future… if you let it.
Once again, this is an opportunity to learn the lessons from this relationship so you don’t repeat the same mistakes again.
What can you learn from this breakup? Were there things you did that you aren’t proud of? How can you ensure that you will not go down that path again?
Use positive affirmations
Positive affirmations are a powerful mechanism for activating the law of attraction.
They program your unconscious mind to look for the things you affirm to yourself.
Some examples of positive affirmations that may help:
- I am a being of love.
- I am loved and lovable.
- I forgive myself.
- I forgive my ex.
- I have power over my own life.
- My wounds are healing.
- I am deserving of love.
- I am releasing the past.
Repeat some positive affirmations to yourself a few times a day. They will give you positive energy to move on with your life and get over your ex.
Breakups can be hard. Really hard.
But they don’t last forever…
And the more work you do on your own mindset and emotional health through your breakup, the sooner you will get over your ex.
Maybe you’ll start attracting a more suitable partner into your life too!